Family Solar System

I know many parents, especially mothers, believe that your children should come first but reality is your spouse should be the one who comes first. It is important to pay attention and spend time with your children but it must be balanced with spending just as much alone time with your spouse. Doherty says in his book Take Back Your Marriage, "I know we did one thing well: we taught our children that we valued our marriage without devaluing them, that more for us meant more for them, that we were mates before we were parents, and that in the solar system of our family, our marriage was the sun and the children the planets, rather than the other way around." When children see their parents together and going on dates that makes them feel safe. Children want to know that their parents relationship is secure. Of course your children will beg for your attention all the time and parents should not neglect them, but parents can not neglect their spouse either. We all deserve time and affection not only from our children but from our spouse as well.